Dangers of Being Assertive

Being Assertive
Is an attitude of mind with an accompanying set of beliefs about yourself and the world around you.
It is not just using a certain set of communication skills or behaviors.

When you have the belief that you are equal to every other person, not better or worse, you can communicate from a position of equality.

Five tips to remain assertive so you can act in a way that is effective and respectful to yourself and to others.

Breathe By being calmer, what you say next will then sound more assertive.
Think before you react Give the other areas of your brain a chance to catch up with what is actually happening, rather than what you think may be happening.
Talk to yourself Tell yourself you are capable and strong.
Mind your language The language of aggression is insulting, bossy and argumentative, sometimes in subtle ways. Patronizing terms can be insulting.
Stay aware of your whole body When you know you need to look assertive, consciously limit your hand movements to soft, flowing gestures that support your words. Look people in the eye, especially when they are talking to you.
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Communicating

You are a taxi driver. A young woman enters the taxi, hands you 50 dollars. Her red dress has a green smiley, she says she needs to go to Yellow jacket in Colorado then go to Moon which is near Pittsburg's international airport.............

How are you going to remember all of that? Using proper communication skills, you can ask your customer questions to make sure you know the details of the story.

Communication is not about words. It’s about meaning and understanding. It’s about talking and listening. How we communicate depends on who is involved in the conversation, what it is about and how confident we feel. To be able to communicate well we need to know more than just how to talk with a friend. We need to know how to talk to colleagues, strangers, employers and many more people.

When in a conversation�

In a casual conversation, don’t ask too many questions. Questions can be good, but someone might feel like they are being interrogated, like in a police movie. Adults can make the mistake of doing this with kids.

And don’t focus too much on yourself. A conversation involves both an A and a B, otherwise you might �C� your way out of talking with someone you like.

Don’t always try to be a �know it all.� Instead, be a good listener, and be a good friend. Sometimes people just want you to listen.

Also... Learn how to express yourself in a conversation. Your emotions are there for you to use as a guide. Don’t bottle up your feelings, but be polite, and respectful.

When someone is giving you instructions, that is the time to ask questions.

Working on Sunday

Working on Sunday?
Years ago most businesses were closed on Sundays. That included restaurants and gas stations and department stores.

Why do I work on Sunday?
What kind of example do I set for my family?
Am I working “two jobs” out of necessity or want?
Do I work because I get a higher wage on Sunday?
Do I have a “plan” so I can eventually have Sunday off?
Do I work for “extra money” or is to support my needs?
Have I tried to rearrange my schedule to have Sunday off?
Do I work longer hours by choice or because it means more money?

Trust

Trust:
Just as you would not want to do business with someone you can't trust, this law simply stated is: When you can completely trust the process of the universe and life, you will be supplied abundantly and you will be able to make your life work just the way you want it. And the trust you give and have must be 100% or it is zero. It cannot be given under one condition and not under another. There are many things we trust with our lives and have no concern about. Such as: the sun will come up every day; the law of gravity works all the time; the pilot who pilots the plane we fly on, is competent; our garbage is picked up on certain days. If we could not trust the things we take for granted will occur without any effort on our part, the fear for our well being would be so great we would not be able to enjoy our lives. Can you imagine what the world would be like, if we could not trust the food we buy, the water we drink or that the people we depend on would not manipulate or harm us? But the only way we can expect others to trust us is, we need to be trustworthy ourselves, and especially to ourselves. Unfortunately, many people don't trust themselves and the judgments and decisions they make. Therefore, they experience disharmony with their lives and their world.
--Sidney Madwed
Quotes on trust

Mythomania

very strong tendency to lie: a very strong tendency to tell lies or exaggerate, which may be a symptom of a disorder

La mythomanie est une tendance au mensonge pouvant aller jusqu'à altérer durablement la vie sociale. Il a été observé que le mythomane ment souvent parce qu'il craint la réaction (de dévalorisation, par exemple) qu'entraînerait l'aveu de la réalité.

Cette pathologie entraîne un handicap social important dans les cas où le malade procède à des altérations mineures et crédibles de la réalité. L'aveu étant souvent ou presque toujours accompagné de réactions négatives de l'entourage, la mythomanie tend à s'auto-entretenir.

Contrairement au menteur, le mythomane n'est pas totalement conscient de son mensonge Il ne distingue pas clairement la réalité des événements issus de son imagination. Le phénomène est cependant normal dans la phase préadolescente : le jeune enfant se raconte comme étant vraies des histoires imaginaires. Ces mensonges ne sont pas intentionnels : l'enfant croit dans une certaine mesure à ce qu'il raconte. C'est là une étape normale et généralisée de l'enfance. Quand cette tendance persiste après la fin de l'adolescence, elle est considérée par notre société comme un trouble du comportement, tandis que d'autres sociétés l'acceptent. Elle est alors qualifiée de mythomanie et peut, non traitée, annoncer un désordre psychiatrique plus grave.

Happy

"We find greatest joy, not in getting, but in expressing what we are... Men do not really live for honors or for pay; their gladness is not the taking and holding, but in doing, the striving, the building, the living. It is a higher joy to teach than to be taught. It is good to get justice, but better to do it; fun to have things but more to make them. The happy man is he who lives the life of love, not for the honors it may bring, but for the life itself." -- R. J. Baughan


"You won't be happy with more until you're happy with what you've got."

"They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for." -- Thomas Edward Bodett